Its important to gather good parental advice

Please help me give good parental advice!

I'm trying to outline various topics using a formal process to identify reasons to agree/disagree and published documents that agree/disagree in a method that automates cost/benefit analysis and conflict resolution between those who agree and disagree with each belief.

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Thesis: It’s important to gather good parental advice

Reasons to agree:

1. Dangers of addiction and substance abuse.
1. Evidence: Documented correlation between early intervention and reduced addiction rates
2. Key Example: Impact of alcohol abuse on academic and career trajectories
3. Supporting Research: Studies showing the effectiveness of parent-child communication about substance risks
2. Risk of life-altering relationships and economic pitfalls.
1. Evidence: Statistical data on teen pregnancy and poverty correlation
2. Source: "The Lives of Teen Parents After Welfare Reform" (HHS Study)
3. Key Finding: 25% of teen mothers require welfare within 3 years
3. Positive impact of well-timed, respectful advice.
4. Danger of living a pointless, shallow, selfish, unexamined consumeristic life.  
5. Some things can drastically worsen your quality of life. You should identify things you should avoid and explain why. 
1. Reasons to agree:
1. Alcohol can destroy your life
1. Reasons to agree:
1. Drunk driving
2. I know people who were much smarter than me, but they partied in school and suffered the rest of their lives because of it. 
3. Websites that agree:
1. http://thecleanlife.hubpages.com/hub/How-Alcoholism-Can-Ruin-Your-Life
2. The interest of those who agree:
1. Validating their decision not to drink
2. Honestly seeking truth
3. Being careful
3. The interest of those who agree:
1. Validating their decision to drink
2. Honestly seeking truth
3. Being "fun"
2. Drugs can destroy your life
3. Falling in love with the wrong person can destroy your life
1. Books that Agree
1. "The Great Gatsby," by F. Scott Fitzgerald
4. Teen Pregnancy increases the chance of poverty. Poverty makes it much more difficult to have a good life
1. Publications That Agree:
1. Approximately one-quarter of teen mothers go on welfare within 3 years of the child’s birth 
1. Kaye, K. & Chadwick, L., The Lives of Teen Parents After Welfare Reform and the Role of TANF, 2006, Unpublished manuscript, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Assistant Secretary of Planning and Evaluation.
2. Poverty is almost nonexistent among those who graduated high school and did not have kids out of wedlock.
3. Two-thirds of families beginners with a young unmarried mother are poor.
1. Sawhill, I.V., Analysis of the 1999 Current Population Survey
2. Webpages that agree
1. http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/why-it-matters/pdf/poverty.pdf
6. Poverty can destroy your dreams
1. Books that Agree
1. "The Grapes of Wrath," by John Steinbeck
7. All you need is good love. Good love involves respect. You should respect people who can provide for themselves. 
8. you must correctly define a successful life to give good parental advice. If there is an afterlife, living a good life would involve preparing for it. You can prepare for the next life and live a good life now.
9. You might need to respect your kids if you want a long-term relationship and feel good giving them your inheritance. You need to at least explain your side of what it takes to be respectful

Reasons to Disagree and Limitations

1. Your kids must live their own lives.
2. Practical Constraints
1. Limited windows for meaningful communication
2. Competing time demands
3. Cultural/family dynamic variations
4. There are not very many times that your kids will want to hear your advice. Time passes; if you don’t have regular time to share your thoughts, everyone stays busy. They don’t need advice. They need good examples and a stable place to learn.
3. For those who grew up with very strict definitions of what is required to be “good,” it’s impractical to expect parenting to involve gathering with your children and family life to be a philosophical salon.

 

Recommendations for Implementations

1.       Regularly doing things with kids, asking about their lives, and doing fun things. Being open, honest, and transparent.

Objectives:

• Rank advice by its expected benefits and costs using tools to automate scoring.
• Foster consensus on best practices using evidence-based argument aggregation.

Freakonomics, the podcast that draws on Twin Studies, has shown that parents have very limited impact on Children’s lives. 

Parents who love their children cannot afford to be intimidated by them

Reasons to agree

1. Your job, as a parent, isn't to let children learn from their own mistakes, but to protect them while they are young from setting bad habits, and to try to get them to learn from other people's mistakes.


2. Children might not be aware they are in danger.


3. Children are stupid adults.


4. Children are children.


5. You can destroy your life, if you get trapped in drugs, alcohol, or unhealthy sexual relationships.


6. People who are intimidated will defer, and you should not defer to children on important things.

Reasons to agree

1. You can't control your children. Children are going to eventually make up their own minds and so you should let them learn from their own mistakes.

Score:

# of reasons to agree: 5

# of reasons to disagree: -0

# of reasons to agree with reasons to agree: 0

# of reasons to disagree with reasons to agree: 0

Total Idea Score: 5

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Sleepovers are bad

Reasons to agree

1. Too many youth try alcohol for the first time at a sleepover.
2. Too many youth try tobacco for the first time at a sleepover.
3. Too many youth have their first exposure to pornography at a sleepover.
4. Peer pressure becomes more powerful when our children are away from our influence.
5. Our defenses are weakened late at night.

Score:

# of reasons to agree: 5

# of reasons to disagree: -0

# of reasons to agree with reasons to agree: 0

# of reasons to disagree with reasons to agree: 0

Total Idea Score: 5

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(+5) Families should spend time together once a week

Reasons to agree

1. Parenting is rewarding if you do a good job.


2. Children need a good relationship with their parent.


3. Families that play together stay together.


4. If you don't make it a goal to do every week, it will not get done.


5. If you have time to watch TV you have time to spend with your family.

Score:

# of reasons to agree: 5

# of reasons to disagree: -0

# of reasons to agree with reasons to agree: 0

# of reasons to disagree with reasons to agree: 0

Total Idea Score: 5

Don't like the score? It is easy to change the score. Just post a reason to agree or disagree with the overall idea, or any of the reasons and the score will change.